No Choice? It’s Always Their Fault! Never Mine.


Do you agree with this title? I don’t agree that you’re not having a choice. After reading ‘IT’S NOT HOW GOOD YOU ARE, IT’S HOW GOOD YOU WANT TO BE.’ from Paul Arden I decided not to blame others anymore. Now it’s my turn to convince you that you aren’t going to do that anymore.

Why would you blame others when you’ve always got a choice yourself? Let’s start with the question: are you happy with your job? There are many people that aren’t happy with their job, not me though. They are always complaining to their colleagues, to their friends, and even their partners. All this negativity and for what? Because you are scared of making a choice.

What is your choice?

If you not happy with your current job, you have multiple options. The easiest option is to quit and look for a new job, although this might not change your happiness if the other jobs s*cks as well. Go and change sh*t yourself at your current job, so this job will fit you. This doesn’t mean you’ve got to be an asshole, but try to improve what you and your team are doing. Be the person that will help to get everything done and raise the bar to a higher level at your company.

Excuses I’ve heard too often:

I :

  • can’t pay for my house
  • am not able to save money
  • there are no other jobs
  • don’t know what jobs I like
  • am scared to do something else
  • am too scared to do something new

What excuses do you hear often? Let me know!

Do something about it

You should think more about yourself. If you disagree with your manager, instead of just saying yes and no, you can say you disagree and why. You can try to do something about it. If that doesn’t work, you’ve at least tried, right?

It’s the same like when your neighbours are giving a party outside and they are in front of your house at 05:00 in the morning talking. You can leave them and complain to whoever except your neighbours or you can go outside and ask them FRIENDLY to leave in front of your house. Otherwise, you can always call the police, but that’s not something you want right?

What I want to say is, think about yourself and make it as easy as possible for yourself. If something is troubling or irritating you, do something about it. You should care less about what other people of you, as a result you will get more things done and I believe this will help you to be a happier person.

Well, what do you think your neighbours will think when you ask them to leave the front of your house? They probably feel bad as well that they woke you up. But if you didn’t tell them, how would they have known? Probably they won’t do it again next time and you can still smile and be friendly when you see your neighbours again.

You don’t have to be scared

The most ‘human’s’ natural instinct is to hold back. They are afraid of what other people might think of them. People want other people to like them, which of course most of us can relate to. They are scared to make life easier for themselves and fall back in negativity – which is oké as long as it doesn’t influence people around you.

Try to find a way you can make everything better for yourself because when you’re happy this will have a positive influence on the people around you. Get out of your comfort zone, leave your computer and get things done that annoy you.

If you say something people will listen like I mentioned before. If you hadn’t said anything about your neighbours’ party in front of your house, how would they have known they kept you awake? Of course some neighbours … just need to be shot to the moon but hey you can’t solve all the problems in the world, but to try as many for yourself as possible.


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